Sit with a partner. Maintain eye contact. Don't touch.

Tell her or him, "I feel separateness from you when I say to myself ... (specify all of the rational and irrational, serious and trivial, crazy and stupid and clear and astute things you say to yourself that make you feel separate from her or him.) Exhaust your list.

Your partner sits calmly and says, "Thank you" after each separation you enumerate.

Then have your partner tell you, "I feel separateness from you when I
say to myself...." Encourage your partner to exhaust her or his separatenesses: calmly say "Thank you" for each.

Then join hands. Tell your partner, "I feel oneness with you when I tell myself ... (complete with all the things you tell yourself which make you feel close to your partner..) Reverse roles. Discuss your experience with this exercise.

When you raise your consciousness to the dyadic level you still keep your bodymind awareness, your distinct personality and your inner voices, should you choose to temporarily identify with them.

When you and your significant other expand consciousness of yourselves to internalize each others' wisdom and concerns, you are on the dyadic level of consciousness. The energy, richness, complexity and awareness the two of you share exceeds the sum of both your individual bodymind energies and aware nesses. Your couple synergy is enhanced when you use your relationship so each of you grows and has more to give to the relationship as well.

Ken Keyes provides an excellent model for such synergistic dyadic consciousness. [Keyes, K., Handbook to Higher Consciousness, 5th Edition,: Living Love, 1979 and A Conscious Person's Guide to Relationships, Kentucky: Living Love, 1979.]
Keyes says to welcome upsets in your relationship. You can use upsets to raise your consciousness. He suggests you fully share your deepest feelings and process what you say to yourself which make you feel separate from and opposed to one another. You can then experience your oneness.

Relate compassionately, Keyes says, to your lover's problems as signals for her or him to grow without also getting yourself caught up emotionally. Process your own emotional upsets, feel centered and loving and then act freely. Use your relationship to stimulate internal dialogue at the personality levels of each of you, so you can both raise your individual and mutual consciousness. When you're upset, disturbed, unhappy or dissatisfied with your mate, explore your own addictions, that is, how you tell yourself your other must be and your relationship must be for you to be happy. Such addictions trigger your upset. You stop suffering and instead grow when you stop being addicted.

Change your addictions to preferences. Preferences are desires which, if not fulfilled, do not make you suffer.

* What, in Keyes' framework, are addictions and preferences?

* What does he mean when he says to upgrade your addictions to preferences?

Think of an addiction of yours that involves someone with whom you are in a relationship. Speculate on the form your addiction would take if it were raised to a preference.

* Imagine that you've up leveled your addiction to a preference. Imagine how your life would be affected. Tell me what you imagine.

* Recall a time when your intimate's annoying habit or attitude gave you an opportunity to discard an addiction and feel better as a result. Write you results.

Stop blaming each other for not meeting each other's expectations. Refrain from making addiction-based demands. Turn off addictions; turn on love. Let your intimate express anger, jealousy and other separating emotions aimed at you, while you love her or him more no matter what she or he does. Let her or his addictions be okay with you.

Realize that in disputes, you win some and lose some; that is okay.

Make your growth and self-expression help your love's growth as she or he defines it.
Before you enter a deep relationship with another, Keyes invites you to know and accept your own inner voices, personality and bodymind. Enter your relationship so you can cooperate with each other in "the great adventure of life."

Keyes recommends you avoid using intense love as a basis for involvement, since, at more inclusive levels of consciousness, you're at living oneness and love with all humanity. You are already deeply in love with everyone. Therefore, he says, choose carefully who you share your time and life games with. Choose someone who contributes to your well-being and vice versa.

"You contribute to your mutual well-being when you enjoy the 'enoughness' that you do have in your life, and thus open your heart to happiness by not creating emotion-backed demands for what you don't have. Learn to emotion- ally accept what is here and now in your life. You will find you always have 'enough' in your life."

Take responsibility, Keyes says, for creating your own happiness in your relationship. You use your relationship to raise your own consciousness only when you work on your own bodymind, personality and subself integration. Keyes suggests such integration allows you to be "in touch with the beautiful, capable and loving" aspects of your own subdyadic consciousness as well as higher consciousness. "I love you," means "You're mirroring me and letting me see the beautiful, capable parts of me."

Make your relationship delightful by being involved and sharing with your intimate, not by being addicted to your intimate for your happiness. To increase your involvement, you must decrease your addictions. Sharing means not hiding anything, so you can build a trusting base.

"Ask for what you want, but don't be addicted to getting it."

Keep noticing the beauty and preciousness of the bodymind and higher
being your intimate is no matter what subpersonality she or he is affecting.

Open to the form the relationship takes, which, for couples, may be nonmonogamous.

You function at the dyadic level of consciousness when you "discover
the 'us' place in terms of surrender, compassionate power and mutual give and take."

Dr. Lessin's holistic tantra book, All-Chakra Tantra, co-written with wife Janet Kira Lessin, is available at http://www.schooloftantra.net/Store/Books/AllChakraTantra.htm

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Let's say Tracy wins, and Tantra and sacred touching, etc., is allowed in Arizona.  Now that doesn't mean that it's allowed in California or Washington, BUT, if the case makes it to Federal court, which it very well may, then guess what?  Tracy's victory allows ALL OF YOU out West to practice the way you want because the 9th Circuit will have said you could.  The laws will extend far beyond the boundaries of Arizona, and by the way, the 9th Circuit is the MOST LIBERAL circuit in the country!  How can the case get there? By coordinating with the legal team for the Native American church of which the Temple is a member.  And in case you didn't know, that's already going on!

Then look at the alternative.  Let's say Tracy loses.  What if she  had a public defender that simply didn't have the time or the vision to do this case the right way?  What is she doesn't get out of jail because of it?  Then you know what will happen?  The system will break her, because that's what it's designed to do!  It will break her, she will end up pleading guilty and going to prison.

And you know what that means to everyone else?  It means that you will be next. Because now the State will have won.  If they can break into one church, automatic weapons drawn, throwing women to the ground, smashing altars and the like, and end up sending its pastor to prison, what makes you think they won't do it again??  They absolutely will, and when you're the one with a laser pointer on your chest, it will be too late to say, "Why didn't I help back then?"

This is it.  The time for talk is over.  We've all hear the saying about "first they came for the communists but I didn't care, because I wasn't a communist.  Then they came for the Jews, but I didn't care because I wasn't Jewish."  And we all know how it ends "Then they came for me and there was no one left to speak for me."  Call it cliche if you want, but guess what.  They just came for you.  And this case may very well determine whether or not they keep coming for you.

It's time to put up or shut up.  Tracy needs help - she needs money.  So either we help now, or we have no right to complain later when the police are smashing through the windows of our church.

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Awake, aware, we become a clear vessel of the Divine, a pure channel of love and light. On this sacred journey to consciousness, we remove chakra blocks through spiritual psycho-emotional healing, personal growth work and spiritual practice.

The Sacred Matrix honors the spiritual essence of all faiths, incorporates the best of all beliefs. Together we co-create a conscious path, a direct line to Source. Reconnected we heal all wounds, become fully alive, happy, healthy, in unconditional love with all of us, divine bliss, heaven on earth.

Heaven brought to Earth dissolves the matrix of hierarchy, eliminates the illusion of separation, overcomes pain, war, death, disease and destruction. Negativity is replaced by a sacred matrix, a matrix of love where we encourage one another to do our best, heal, play, love and experience fulfillment, joy, bliss, sensuality, sexuality and right livelihood.

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We break through these barriers, personal and global, to heal individually and collectively. We create paradise, a planet where love’s the primary operating system and peace that respects all life, all consciousness, prevails.

Through the Sacred Matrix, we remember who we truly are–light beings originating from Source. We operate from that oneness. We practice ahimsa (do no harm), candor (tell the truth), integrity, authenticity, kindness, pure intentions, honesty, personal responsibility, path of peace, consciousness, transparency and unconditional love.

Choose spiritual evolution. Evolve to a higher level of being, an awareness of love that’s free from war, fear, lack, prejudice, pain and hierarchy. Shift from the paradigm of the Illuminati Matrix, a design full of confusion, conflict, pain, separation and suffering to the Sacred Matrix. Embrace peace, clarity, love, bliss and Oneness, the realization that we all originate from Source, the Divine Flame that sparked us all into existence.

Purpose: We recognize the contrast between the current illusion, a Zeitgeist (world view) reality of confusion, conflict, war, disease, pain and suffering and the internal longing for a world free of strife, full of harmony and peace that respects all consciousness and allows each and every one of us to live with dignity, beauty, grace and peace. All our basic needs for survival and happiness met, as a birthright, free from struggle. Until now no single organization has offered solutions to remedy these problems. The Sacred Matrix offers a paradigm of peace where every being embodies her or his own personal journey home to oneness where they become whole, complete, reconnected to Source.

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Solution: The Sacred Matrix offers a paradigm of peace where every human being can enter, gain and understand their own personal integrity and what it means to live from it.  All beings learn how to connect with others to form cooperatives of integrity through creating conscious, kind and loving intentional communities, neighborhoods, associations, cities, countries and worlds where sharing and love is the norm. By beginning in our own neighborhoods with friends and family, we prepare to be good neighbors and galactic citizens worthy of inclusion to higher technologies and solutions to improve our lives and save our world.

Overview: The Sacred Matrix is based on the human chakra system, a virtual rainbow vortex of light that channels through individuals, through one another and collectively across the planet. The incremental spectrums of the colors of light represent various spiritual paths and cultures we were born into. We acknowledge our ancestors, their love and good intentions and select elements that resonate with the core of our being to follow throughout our lives. These spiritual and religious paths tabs or indexes on the template of consciousness. Centrifugal force pulls us from beginning levels, the outer circle of reality into deeper awareness of greater possibilities in the inner circle. Ultimately we arrive in to the center of oneness, the Spheres of Existence, levels of pure light that radiate out to all and embrace us in divine love.

Conclusion: We recognize our path and placement on the chakra rainbow vortex of light and consciously choose to continue that emanation of Source or move to another ray of light (emanation). We realize all emanations ultimately converge into Source, the white ray of light, illumination and enlightenment. From this enlightened pinnacle of we KNOW absolute truth: WE ARE ALL ONE

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Become a sacred lover. Learn All-Chakra Tantra and master the art of conscious, sacred sexuality. Give and receive whole body healing with other Students on the tantric path. Clear your chakras (energy centers) and become a manifestation of divine love.

As divinity incarnate, you’re attractive, sexy, sensual, irresistible. All are drawn to you because you’re channeling energy directly from Source/Universal Consciousness. You vibrate at a higher frequency. You become enlightened (full of light) and radiate love. Others are drawn to you, compulsively, like a moth to a flame.

You are a clear vessel of Love/God/Goddess. You are the sacred healer, the lover, a Daka or Dakini. You’re a true tantrica who emanates love, respects life, heals others through your sacred touch, love and spiritual beingness that’s forever connected to Love/Light/Source. Now you know it, feel it in ever cell of your being.

Students serve as surrogates (stand-ins) to help each other find the perfect mates (beloveds) and develop the skills to keep them and maintain functional, healthy, happy, successful relationships. You assist each other as you clear negativity. You learn skills that allow you to communicate clearly and consciously, authentically. You embody personal responsibility, truth, integrity, honesty, all things that make you attractive and desirable.

You have the cleared, healed, conscious relationships that you’ve always wanted. You experience love, laughter, abundance, joy and bliss.

You are sexually and sensually satisfied. Your life works (finally). You are free.

All this and more await you when you learn tantra, internalize it and master these sacred, spiritual teachings in to your being. You become the divine beloved at the Temple of Tantra, Maui, Hawaii.

Create conscious partnerships. Heal, clear those yucky things you don’t like in your current relationship. Bring in your lover. Tell him or her that you want to make it right, feel good, happy and blissful for both of you. If it’s not working for one, it’s really not working for both of you. You miss her or him. Where’s the excitement you once had? You were so great together, so juicy when you first met. Then what happened? You can fix it. You can recover your bliss. There are ways where there’s a will. And if not, because you’re really not meant to be with each other, not a match, then you can set each other free with kindness and love.

Joy, bliss, unconditional love, orgiastic energy is your birthright. You were conceived because someone (maybe two someones) had an orgasm. Life is supposed to be orgasmic. 47-52% of women do not have orgasms. Shame on all of us. We need to correct that for orgasms are our connections to God Source.

Clear your channels and open up your hailing frequencies to God/Source. Hello?

Now the real fun begins. Life is orgasmic, one HUGE orgasm as your kundalini awakens and you crack the cosmic code. Sexual energy and spiritual energy, love and God.dess are all the same thing! ONE! You are a spiritual being of love and light from God/Sourc manifesting as a human being. You are a BEING being human. Got it? Viola! Now you are enlightened (full of light). Life! Life it light! Enjoy it!

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